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My Safety Plan
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Before you begin
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My Safety Plan
Before you begin
- What made you start a safety plan today?
- What worries you the most right now?
The basics
- City / ZIP code where you live
- Do you attend school? Where?
- Do you have a job? Where?
- Do you have children? How many?
- Children's ages
- Sexual orientation / gender identity (only if it affects your safety)
- Have you told family about the relationship? Who knows?
Home and family
- Do you have a safe word with someone you trust?
- Your safe word or code phrase
- Who could you stay with?
- Where else could you stay (shelter, hotel, relative)?
- Safe public place you can go to right now
- Emergency bag items (ID, cash, meds, keys, documents, chargers)
- Other items you must not leave behind
- Do you have a protection / restraining order?
- Protection order details (case number, who has a copy)
- Who will you let know where you are going?
- Who is your emergency pickup person?
- Do your children know how to call 911?
- Children's code word (means: get out / get help)
- Children's safe place in the home and outside the home
- Childcare backup plan
Technology safety
- Do you have your own cell phone?
- Is your phone on the same plan as your partner?
- Has your partner checked your phone?
- Which social media accounts do you use?
- Has your partner sent abusive texts or messages? (screenshot and save them)
- Which passwords are shared or known to your partner?
- Who else has trusted access to your online accounts?
- Has your partner pretended to be you online?
- Does your partner have private photos of you?
- Has your partner threatened to reveal photos, messages or personal information?
School, work and your partner
- Alternate route to and from school
- Have you told campus security or a counselor about the relationship?
- Who do you spend time with between classes?
- Who handles school pickup?
- Alternate route to and from work
- Have you told anyone at work about the relationship?
- Does your partner work at the same place?
- Who can pick you up from work?
- Where is a safe place to end the relationship (public, with people nearby)?
- Who will you talk to right after the breakup?
Emotional safety
- What hurtful things does your partner say that stay with you?
- What is true about you, instead?
- Activities that make you feel like yourself
- Who can you call when you need cheering up?
- What helps you calm down when you are overwhelmed?